You tweeted this at the start of the year: ‘This year GET CURIOUS! Find out what happens if u DO do all d things u were too afraid or lazy to do! Don’t u wonder what’s on d other side?’ Hrithik, have you been following what you said? Rediscovering yourself, taking risks and pushing boundaries?
To me that’s like asking if I’m living or not. I believe if you are not rediscovering yourself and pushing boundaries, then you are not alive. Everybody wants to change something about their life, but they are either too afraid, too lazy, or too comfortable with ‘the way things are’. That’s not a natural state because nature is constantly evolving and urging us to follow suit. It unsettles me because I see myself in them, and I want for them the change I have achieved physically and mentally. If you are not aiming that high, why play at all? I’m so curious about knowing the unknown, it can be scary but I see it as a game and that takes all the fear away.
You have been playing the perfect daddy to your boys ‘ Hrehaan and Hridhaan. What are the things you boys like doing together?
My bond with my boys is true and strong, not just because they are my sons, but because we three are perfectly cast in characters that get along so well when we are together. Nothing remains special if you are not constantly pushing your imagination to discover and invent possibilities. Fatherhood didn’t just happen to me, I am deliberately living it, re-imagining it and rediscovering it every day. It is as beautiful as I make it, just like anything else in life.
Does it bring back memories of the relationship you shared with your father while growing up?
No. Different characters, different movie (laughs). I am blessed to have a great father who did his best while trying to make ends meet financially and professionally.
Ever feel that the time you get to spend with your boys is not enough, as kids grow up really quickly?
People keep saying that, but for me time is like the wave and I’m the surfer. As long as I am one with the wave, riding it and harnessing its speed ‘ I will never feel it’s going faster than me. If I stop to reflect upon it, it’s going to overcome me. There will come a point when it all automatically slows down, until then I am the eternal time surfer. So I don’t feel my time with my boys is not enough. I have all the time in the world. Right now, I am rediscovering the world with them, we are travellers, explorers, and we have to go where no man has gone before'(ha!ha!)
Do you watch any of your movies with your boys? How do they react?
Yes, that’s when the daddy turns into the child, hoping for a compliment from them. When my kids love my work I feel elated and victorious, it means more to me than an Oscar. And when they are silent, I’m proud that they have a mind and perspective of their own, and are courageous enough not to say things just to please me.
In the past year you have been living by yourself, spending a lot of time with your children and focussing on one film at a time. So are you in a happy place and a happy state of mind?
Yes! I have never had such sense of joy and fulfilment. It’ almost like this is the person I was destined to be. But it’s come through a lot of hard work. I had to fight my own mind to get here.
You tweeted after watching SRK’s recent film, ‘to the man who makes his own luck’. Do you think one can make his own luck? Some believe that we are either born with it, or we are not.
I choose to see in others what I see in myself, or desire for myself. If you believe you are either born with it or not, you will always remain a victim of circumstances. But if you believe you have the power to make your own luck ‘ you will confidently engage in an action that will cause a change.
Do you believe in finding love all over again?
I am so full of love that it’s not possible I won’t find love. At the same time, I don’t need another person to feel the feeling of love. I feel it all the time. But if you are asking about someone who I can share my joy and travels with, then yes, I may come across one. Or ten (smiles). Who knows?
Ever thought of doing films in the West, given your great looks and stock of talent?
Sure enough. Doing films in the West seems very possible. In fact, I will do it.
You focus on one film at a time; don’t you feel the need to do more?
Honestly, I do. And I am going to. I am bound to make that happen now.
In an industry that is so competitive, you are constantly tweeting praises and applauding other actors on social networking sites.
It’s simple. People who don’t praise others are secretly afraid. And people who praise just to please others, suffer from low self-worth. They live their life shackled to their glory and success. I am free. I am super at what I do and what I am. And to become better myself, I must rejoice and push my friends to be even greater.